One day last week, one of the "professionals" at my office showed up clothed in the most awful, ill-fitting casual attire I have ever seen. The last two buttons on her blouse we not fastened exposing her midriff and belly button. And her Chinos were at least one size too small. Not like the male professionals are fashionistas. One of these apparently owns no belt nor is he of a mind even to rent one. Another regularly wears sandles, on one occasion with Argyle socks. I've been known to walk out of the house wearing mistakes but nothing, I'm confident, as egregious as these.

Do any of you have to suffer these sights at your place of employment?

my wife wants to chat with single guys from her computer at work. When contacting single guys we both agreed that we only give them my number and they are free to text, call, and send pictures to her anytime from there, and the same goes for her. Now she wants to mobil text with them from her computer at work. I do not agree with this because it is taking me out of the mix completely, and is pretty much just like giving them her private number...because they can contact her without me knowing it. Its not that I dont trust my wife, I dont trust the single guys trying to get her to stray. I know she would never do that...but why put myself and her in that vulnerable situation when everything has been fine the way we were doing things orignally? When I told her that I was not comfortable with her doing this she got very angry with me and said that I didnt trust her. This just makes me wonder...

I wonder how your local club treats singles - both men and women...

At the one we attend most often, single women get small (nearly free) door fees and are welcome any day. Like many clubs, there aren't a lot of single ladies around.

Single men, on the other hand, pay more than a couple and are limited on Saturdays (1 single to every 5 couples), and are not allowed in the play areas without being accompanied by a couple.

This isn't necessarily a discussion about the fairness of it all or the clubs' motivation...just a curiosity.

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Hello everybody. My wife and I joined the board several years ago as newbs to ask questions and get somewhat familiar with the lifestyle. At the time I was working in a religious context so we had to be very discreet about our activities. Despite our best efforts we were "outed" by a close friend and had to take a hiatus from the site. Life got really complicated after that for several years, but we are now settled into new lives (without worry of religious judgement) and are back on the board and happy to be able to participate again. So, while we are not new to the site (or swinging anymore) we thought it might be a good idea to reintroduce ourselves.

AcuTwo weeks earlier she had told me to clear my calendar, and be prepared for a great b'd. I am many years older than her (20). The day finally arrived,we meet at hotel, go to pool, shower then go to comedy show. While at the show she reached under the table and grabbed my cock (as the waitress was taking our drink order). The waitress smiled and went to get our drinks. G/F then spread her legs and guided my hand to her wetness,( she was wearing a very short skirt). Waitress returned with our drinks and extra napkins,smiled and said I wil check on you later.(our hands still in each others lap). We played with each other the whole time. As we left the show ( I had to adjust myself pulled my cock up under my belt to help conceal the bulge). Once in my vehicle she grabbed my cock and said let's skip dinner and return to the room. Getting ready to get in Jacuzzi she stopped,sat down on the edge and stuffed my cock in her mouth. She sucked the head for a minute then stuffed the whole 7 1/2 " down her throat,(looking me in the eyes the whole time). She held it there for a moment then released it and told me to sit down in the jacuzzi. Following her direction she followed me sitting down on my cock. She came almost instantly, her muscles squezzing me tightly. Few moments and then she started riding hard, water going everywhere. 20 minutes of this and she said now you are going to do me. We got out went to the bed and she said get behind me. I enterd her to the hilt,grabbed her hair pulled her head back spanked her ass. A few minutes later we came together hard her muscles again clamped down on me so hard I couldn't move. We collapsed,breathing hard,fell asleep. She woke me up twice wanting more. When we checked out and parted ways she said happy birthday. Best birthday ever.

Anyone have a recommended site to get some swinger clothes? T-shirts, underwear, whatever...

Being a randy old man of 70 and married to a very sexy woman of the same age, I wonder what older woman think of their sexual life over the years?
As for guys I think most guys are up for just about anything sexual from whatever age they can start playing.
I often wonder what women’s feelings and response to their sexuality has been through their life, their first sexual experience from the first time a guy tried to get his hand under her dress or into her top, to married women and their response to things their husbands wanted them to do, or did the woman take the initiative? Did they ever play up or even think about playing up with other men?
I would love to hear from any mature women on their thoughts!
I often see silver / grey headed older women and wonder what their sexual experiences have been?
Briefly my wife’s experience, we started going together just before our 18th birthdays (we are the same age) she was from a very strict Church going Catholic family and honestly thought that every time a woman had sex she had a baby and that her mother must have been a very sexy woman as she had six children (the Catholic Church has a lot to answer for), I had to buy books to educate her on the fact’s of life.
I must have done a pretty good job of it as I took her cherry when we were 19, we married at 21, had our family at 28 and 30, we met friends and through them joined a nudist club where we soon found out their was an underground swinging movement, after flittering around on the edge of it for a while we finally joined in with the swingers (it took a lot of talking on my part to get the wife to agree to it), we were 35 and had been married 15 years when the wife went with her first ever other guy, that opened the door to 30 + years of swinging, swapping and her being a hot wife with other guys, after the first time she took to the lifestyle like a duck to water. The last 10-15 years of our playing has mainly been M F M threesomes, I love watching, joining in and going silky seconds.
I would be extremely happy to hear from other mature woman or their husbands who would be willing to tell of their sexual experiences over the years?
We have now been married 50 years early next year and are still very much in love and still have an active sex life.
Rick181au.
PS We get a lot of randy old men in these chat rooms but very few women, what happens to them? :confused:

My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years. We have a great relationship, although it hasn't always been that way. There was a time that I went through a long spell of not wanting to have sex. But now for the past few months, I can't get enough. It's been great for both of us. We have both become a little freaky here lately.
He has recently shared with me that he thinks it would turn him on to see me with another man. He sees how much pleasure I get from the toys he uses on me and wanders if he would get the same arousal watching me and another man.
He has also told me that he thinks he would get turned on by watching me with another woman, just sitting back and watching. I'm not too sure about this one. I have tried that before (about 10 years ago) and I was very uncomfortable.
I have mentioned bringing in another couple, so that it would be equal for the both of us. I think I would be okay with that, but he said that there would have to be boundaries. We have been discussing this for almost a week, but no decisions have been made. We have a great relationship and the last thing we want to do is mess that up. When he brought up the idea of seeing me with another man, I was in total shock. I never expected anything like that to come out of his mouth. We were having sex when he mentioned it. That was the first time we have ever talked about anything like this, but we have been speaking of it every day since then (last Saturday). I just don't know how I would feel about bringing in another woman. We have both asked, "What if you like him/her more than me? What is him/her performs better than me and then you don't want me anymore?"
We do know of a couple that had a threesome, and the fiance got upset because he was having sex more with the other girl, than with her. My husband admitted that he may do the same only because it is something that would not happen often, maybe even only one time. He says his fantasy is having me and another woman, but he said that's every man's fantasy. I've never really thought of any kind of fantasy, though.
I don't know what to do. I need advice/suggestions, please share yours.

I see this over and over again. Do you think this is a fair statement? It is said many times on here that there is no judgement for thos who can't handle swinging but these statements tend to suggest otherwise. The notion that 'you love them enough' or 'your love is so great to allow' says to me that maybe what is said to those who can't get a grip on swinging and what is really thought may be two different things.:?:

Does anyone here use this chat? I mean aside from the schedule live chat which I have no idea how many people showed up as I had to work. I have been on several different times and days and there never seems to be no more than two or less on. Is everyone chatting on invisible mode?

My girlfriend recently disclosed that she her fantasy is to have someone pay her to watch us have sex. I thought about taking us on a road trip to Vegas to make that happen (It would be legal there and hey Vegas is fun). She's never done anything like this before and it would be kind of a one shot deal for us. I don't care about the money, but seeing her fulfill the fantasy would be pretty hot. Any ideas on how we could make this happen?

The topic in chat tonight was how to ensure that everyone has a positive first experience.

One of the things that came to mind for me that still is an important factor in closing any play date is that my husband and I come back together afterwards to reaffirm that we are still into one another. It's an integral part of our process, I need his reassurance that I am still the love of his life, that the sex we have together is by far the most satisfying compared to our extra curricular activites.

What makes your swinging positive? During, after, before? What advice do you have to offer to the folks on the board who are still considering their first swinging experience?

Hi we a couple from Christchurch New Zealand. We have been dipping our toes into swinging for the past 6 months, so far we have soft swapped with one couple. We are very eager to find some new friends for full swap but we are having trouble finding the right people. Anyway after spending a lot of time searching for advice from google I found this site. So far what I have read here has given us some great advice and we will continue to use this wonderful site.

My wife and I have never swung before. She is afraid to try it but she would like to watch someone and have someone watch us. I don't know how to get it started. There is no way we could do it in our town but only on when away from home would we dare play. Any ideas as to what we need to do to find someone willing to help us out:)